your story matters
One of my daughters gave me one of those “Dad, I want to hear your story” books a few months ago. The book is filled with questions about one’s life: memories, funny stories, and what you think about different issues. I write in it about twice a week. Each time I start answering a new question, I also read over already completed questions which usually leads me to add further information. It’s an enjoyable exercise, and I hope this little book and numerous journals leave a legacy of who I am and what I think about many subjects. It would be suitable for everyone to tell their story, especially if you have children.
People’s stories are interesting to me, so I tend to ask a lot of questions when I meet someone new. I have never enjoyed small talk much, so I try to jump right into a person’s life as soon as possible. Most people are glad to talk about their lives, especially if they sense that someone wants to listen. Some folks don’t have anyone who listens to them, so they feel insignificant. Everyone wants to be heard; I think the trick is finding someone to take an interest.
I never hear a boring story when someone starts bearing their soul to me. Everyone’s life is fascinating.
I met a man about a year ago who is now among my friends. He is a successful contractor who works with one of his sons. I’ve met two of his sons several times, but there’s a third one that I’ve never encountered. I remember the first time I inquired about his family. He told me he was divorced some years ago and now lives alone. When I asked about his children, he started to tear up a little. He explained that one of his sons is estranged from him, and I could tell it causes him much pain. When he learned I was a pastor, he smiled as he said, “I’m born again!” He wanted me to know. Now I pray for him and his son every week.
I met another man a few months ago, and we cross paths frequently now. He heard that I had been a pastor, so when I asked about his family, he immediately told me his son is a youth pastor. I could tell he is proud of all his children. As we shared about our lives, I learned he doesn’t drink alcohol these days. I noticed that fact when seeing him at this establishment. He went on to explain that he once had a severe drinking problem, but after turning his life over to God, he stopped and has never looked back. He attends a local church with his wife, and he grew a long white beard over the holidays. You guessed it; he plays Santa Claus at several venues. He is very open with his faith and is well-liked at the cigar lounge we frequent. It is a pleasure to make his acquaintance.
I could tell a dozen other stories of friends, many of whom I met only a year or two ago. There are no boring lives. The human condition places every one of us in one interesting circumstance after another; some are funny, some sad or even tragic, and others are just amazing. Behind every face you meet is a tale as compelling as any book or movie, and it’s just waiting to be told. The trick for all of us is finding someone to listen.
You can learn marvelous, entertaining human stories. They are all around you every day. All you must do is ask and listen. Your own narrative will be enriched by the ones you hear from others. When someone cares enough to inquire about us, it makes us feel important, and who doesn’t want to experience that?
People liked talking to Jesus because he was interested in their lives. He made folks who were overlooked or frowned upon experience self-worth, and the Teacher revealed a sublime characteristic of God. He wants to be part of your story. Your story matters to God – and to me too!
Live Inspired and be inspiring!
Don Mark
